How Connected Do We Really Want To Be?

For a lot of us the new wave of connectivity like texting and wondrous blog spots give us a sense of what is going on in our loved ones lives. We feel in this fast paced word like we are staying on top of our loved ones; involved in their ups and downs. But how much do we really want to know and what do we do when we learn too much?

Take for example the viral semi-news-piece going around involving the long-suffering father of Elizabeth Frisinger whose father found out unexpectedly that he had financed a trip in which she lost her virginity. This is nothing new. And even though it turned out to be a complete fake, eighteen year old girls loose their virginity on their dad's dime all the time, but rarely does dad have to think about it, let alone what to do with said information. But because of the ease of text messaging some poor guy (or gal) would be left to think about their baby girl in a way that they probably weren't ready to and deal with the whole world talking about it....Harsh man!

The thought comes to mind that early education in sexuality should include a talk about when where and whom to tell your joyous information to. We all should be aware that our children are going to have sex at some point. We all also know that we really really don't want to know about it.

Which brings me to another thought. Grown-ups and youth alike need to be thinking in real terms about what information they don't want to live with knowing. Conversations about what you don't want to know are eversomuch easier than the cold, uncomfortable conversations that come when you find out something that is forever emblazoned in your brain that even Bon Ami won't remove. Talk to your kids early, ahead of time. Tell them your ideals, let them know you are aware they may have different ones, but let them know it's okay for you not to know something. And maybe more importantly, really okay for your buisiness associates, extended family and potential bosses, clients,etc. not to know.

And above all let them know some things should go the old route, word of mouth, not text, video, blog or all of the above. Nobody wants to see their daughter on "Girls gone wild."